

When a relationship breaks down, discussions involving finances, property or children arrangements can quickly feel overwhelming. Many people think they have no choice but to go to court. In reality, there are numerous options that can help you reach an agreement together with your former partner more quickly, at less cost and with far less stress.
As family solicitors, we regularly guide clients through non-court dispute resolution (NCDR)options and, in many cases, these methods can lead to more constructive and longer-lasting outcomes than traditional court proceedings. It is a fact that solutions reached by agreement are more durable than those imposed on parties by a judge. This is one of the reasons why the law changed in April 2024 to help to promote a shift away from automatically considering court proceedings when resolving family disputes.
Here’s a short summary of the main options available in respect of financial claims on divorce and private children law applications.
Why Choose a Non-Court Option?
There are lots of reasons to consider resolving matters out of court:
What Are My Options?
1. Mediation
Mediation involves working with a trained, independent mediator who helps you and your former partner discuss and resolve issues.
Mediation is especially helpful where communication is still possible, and both parties are open to compromise.
2. Collaborative Law
This is a more structured process where both parties have their own collaboratively trained solicitor, and everyone commits to resolving matters without going to court.
This can be a great choice for clients who want to retain control over the process while still having the support of a legal professional.
3. Arbitration
Arbitration is effectively employing a tribunal to act as a private judge. You and your former partner agree to appoint a trained family law arbitrator who makes a decision after hearing submissions and, if necessary, evidence from both parties.
Arbitration is ideal for those who want a clear decision but prefer a private and efficient process. It often involves a directions hearing before the arbitration hearing (akin to a final hearing in court proceedings).
4. Private Financial Dispute Resolution (Private FDR)
This option is available in financial cases and involves hiring a neutral expert (often a barrister or retired judge) to give a detailed opinion or indication on what a court might decide in your case.
5. Early Neutral Evaluation (ENE)
In an ENE, an experienced family lawyer gives you and your ex-partner an early, impartial opinion on the likely outcome if your case were to go to court.
ENE can be used for financial and children disputes and is growing in popularity for both single issue or whole settlement requests. Often these are written opinions, based on the written submissions made by the lawyers for each party.
What Do the Courts Say About All This?
The family court is clear: wherever possible, you should try to resolve matters out of court. Under the Family Procedure Rules 2010 (which are regularly updated), parties are expected to genuinely consider and engage in non-court options before starting proceedings.
In fact, the court can:
When Is Court the Better Option?
While these alternative methods work well in many cases, there are situations where going to court is necessary, for example:
However, even in complex or contentious situations, it’s often possible to use a combination of court and out-of-court methods.
How We Can Help
At Turner Nicholson, we’ll always take the time to understand your situation and help you decide the best way forward. Whether you’re looking for advice before a mediation session, or you need legal representation in arbitration we are here to support you every step of the way.
If you’re not sure which option is right for you, we’re happy to offer an initial consultation to explore what is most appropriate for your circumstances.
Get in Touch
To speak with a member of our friendly and experienced team, please contact us on 0207 336 6000 for the London office, 01327 263 950 for the Banbury office or email mail@turnernicholson.com for more information.
The material contained in this article is provided for informational purposes only and should not be construed as legal advice on any subject matter. The content of this article contains general information and may not reflect current legal developments, verdicts or settlements.
Author: Charlotte Hayes-Sennett
Dated 16 July 2025